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When a child is struggling, families often feel unsure where to turn. Recording what has changed and seeking age-appropriate assessment are sensible first steps.

Not knowing where to begin

Parents and carers often notice that something is different with a child long before they know what to do about it. They may be unsure which service to contact, how to describe the changes or whether they are overreacting. A practical first step is to write down what you have observed and ask a health professional where a suitable assessment can be arranged locally.

Changes worth recording

• sleep patterns, including nightmares or difficulty settling;
• school attendance, participation or a drop in engagement;
• friendships and family relationships;
• behaviour, mood, appetite or interest in usual activities;
• any comments about self-harm or feeling hopeless, which need urgent attention.

Dates and specific examples make it easier for a health professional to understand the situation.

Starting with the right professional

Your GP is usually a good first contact and can arrange referral to a child psychologist, paediatrician, child and adolescent mental health service or other appropriate support. School counsellors can also help. A service designed for adults should not be assumed suitable for children; young people often need clinicians trained specifically in their age group.

If you are considering Christine

Dr Christine Shen, Acupuncturist, holds qualifications in psychotherapy and sees clients at the Freshwater clinic. If you are thinking about discussing your child's needs with her, ask directly about age suitability, how parents or carers would be involved and whether specialist assessment should come first. Christine can help you think through options, and that may include recommending a service better suited to your child.

Matching care to the child

Every child is different. Care should reflect their age, development, family situation and particular difficulties. Ask how any support will be reviewed and what happens if needs change.

In an emergency

If your child is in immediate danger or you are worried about their safety, call triple zero or go to your nearest emergency department. Kids Helpline is also available on 1800 55 1800 for young people and families.

Looking after yourself too

Supporting a struggling child can be exhausting. Talking with your GP or a trusted person about your own wellbeing is part of caring for the whole family on the Northern Beaches and beyond.